Is Your Spouse Too Lazy For You?

Ok so there isn’t much that really “bothers” me. However, I absolutely can’t handle lazy or sloppy people. I hear so many married couples say, “My spouse is so lazy”. Is your spouse too lazy for you? Do they not do anything around the house? Do you feel like you’re the one always doing everything?

I don’t know if it’s the way I was raised, which was by my military father or what, but I was not allowed to be a lazy kid. I made my bed every morning military style. Elbows weren’t allowed on the table, and the only time I was allowed to sit on the couch was after dark, feet on the floor, not on the couch. My father used to say, “if you need to lay down that’s what beds are for”. So that being said, that was probably a little over the top right? Yes it probably was, but that instilled something in me. I never allowed myself to become a lazy person.

My parents shared in the household work. My father never felt that because he was the “man of the house” he didn’t need to clean or cook. I actually remember my father doing our families laundry more than my mom. They both worked and carried the work load evenly. The only thing my mom didn’t do was clean the garage. That was my dad’s place to store all his useless junk, although he always thought the garage was filled with treasures haha.

After college, when I was “really” in the dating scene, laziness within someone was in my top 3 of absolute no no’s. I just can’t be with someone that’s lazy. Someone who can’t keep their room clean, or their house even. Someone that can’t get their ass in gear and get moving, isn’t the one for me. A couch potato basically.

I have so many married friends that say over and over, my spouse is so lazy. They don’t do anything, I do all the work. All the laundry, the cooking, the cleaning, I just want them to help out for once.

The idea is to help each other, you’re a team right? Trust me when I say, it’s a turn off to someone you’re dating, or you’re spouse if you’re lazy. Get up, get moving, do something. Like I said, get your ass in gear. It will make you feel like you’re contributing and will make you feel accomplished.

Do you need some advice or tips on getting your spouse to step it up? If so bring it to the forum at “Ask Jen”.